"Scarcity vs I have enough" mindset...

Updated: Aug 9, 2019

I win, you lose.

Change your mindset, change your world. It's true, can be tricky, but worth it.

It’s hard not to notice a "scarcity vs I have enough" mindset in people. Sadly the scarcity mentality is one of victimhood. They lack the belief that they can affect outcomes via their actions and no matter how much you try to persuade them otherwise, it's fruitless. They are ruled by fear and powerlessness. They tend to think small and prefer to operate in narrow domains they know well. If it’s new and out of their comfort zone they need guaranteed returns.

Those with "I have enough" mentality on the other hand feel grateful and are enthused about challenges and effort. Their world-view flows from feeling that there are infinite opportunities. They tend to have a ‘let’s try it’ attitude because they expect something positive to come out of it. They have a strong sense of self-efficacy (the feeling that you can cope with and put effort into overcoming obstacles in life) and are usually willing to give their time generously in a bid to learn, grow and contribute to something bigger than themselves. Perhaps on occasions, they are too eager to say 'yes' and could benefit from learning to say 'no'.

Scarcity people tend to restrict their energy. They fear it will be wasted and they will lose out. They are often guarded with knowledge and tend not to collaborate with others for fear they'll be left behind. They value security over taking risks, live in their comfort zone and strive to maintain their place in the world scared it will be taken away.

I really believe that this mindset is an attitude that one can choose to hold or not despite your circumstances. My beautiful nan grew up in poverty. She gave up her education aged 12 to become a maid and clean other people's steps. Singlehandedly, brought up seven kids during the second world war (my grandfather was away fighting and suffered severe PTSD which he never recovered from) and carried on working and supporting her family until she died. And yet she had an abundance mentality. So strong was her faith in the face of harsh economic and social conditions that she never spoke ill of anyone or enviously at anyone else circumstances and would give away her last penny. She was idolised and adored by her family and grandchildren. Some would regard that as the richest legacy anyone could leave.

Social media triggers my own scarcity mentality (most of us have it, lurking in the recesses of our mind). FOMO or fear of missing out, creeps in as I witness the perfectly curated lives of others. Over time I've learnt to catch myself. I close my laptop or put down my mobile phone. I do one of the following - I go for a bike ride, walk in the woods or on the beach, watch the birds in my garden taking turns to eat the seeds on the grass, write a gratitude list, listen to a podcast or TED talk or speak to one of my tribe who naturally points out that I have no idea what's really going on in the lives of others and I have my own individual path, my personal journey and my bigger story to deliver. And then, thankfully, after re-connecting with the good life once again, order is restored, the universe is bountiful and full of potential and I'm back to my I win, you win, we all win, self.

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